“Call it "womb awe" or even "womb worship" but it's not simple envy. I don't remember even wanting to be a woman. But each of the three times I have been present at the birth of one of my children, I have been overwhelmed by a sense of reverence... It was quite suddenly, the first day of creation; the Goddess giving birth to a world... Like men since the beginning of time I wondered: What can I ever create that will equal the magnificence of this new life?”  Sam KEEN.

To my mothers,

Birth is sacred. Every birth is unique.  No birth is as we imagine.  All birthing mothers deserve reverence and awe.  After carrying, nurturing, and loving this miracle that is a child inside of you for some 40 weeks, birth is revelation. To be witness to this event is an honour.

Support during birthing process is threefold:

  • Respect
  • Guidance
  • Support

Respect: based on understanding the mother’s wishes, her history, her vision.  Respect includes not forcing opinions or beliefs upon the mother and her partner.  There is no judgement passed.

Guidance: sharing knowledge based on experience, study and passion.  Guidance includes ensuring that mom is educated and informed on what will and is happening to her body, to baby, and to baby’s body.  Guidance includes presenting the facts in layperson's terms.  Understanding the process will empower mom.  Empowerment will reduce fear and promote a more positive and open experience.  This will increase mom’s confidence and offer a great start for mom and babe.

Support: being present for mom and for her partner. Listening, massaging, offering suggestions for increased comfort, providing encouragement, being the voice of calm.  Support is grounding.

Birth is a natural process.  Too often we forget that our bodies were made to birth babies. The role of a Doula is to help remind mom of her body wisdom, to encourage and guide her when necessary and to sometimes just hold space for her and bear witness to the amazing transformation she is undergoing as she comes into her full power.  Having attended hundreds of births, I'm skilled in reading a mother's body and am keenly aware of where she is in her labour - as well as being able to identify and reassure couples on the spectrum of 'normal' during birth.  As a yoga instructor, I am comfortable and confident in helping mothers assume the best positions for labour and birth and am able to help them find ways to support the rotation and re-positioning of baby to assist in a more 'gentle' birth.

Sincerely yours,

Kirsten Wallace